The Millennial Stay-At-Home Mom
Have you wondered what its like being a millennial stay-at-home-mom? No need to wonder anymore because Javana Small is an expert when it comes to that subject. Javana was kind enough to give us a glimpse of her everyday life.
Javana wears many hats. She is tech savvy, a wife, crafty, intelligent and lastly a mother of two adorable kids Jada and Brandon the 2nd.
What’s it like being a stay- at- home millennial mom? List your daily duties.
It’s busy to say the least. It can become a little stressful, but it is rewarding. Definitely not like any other “job” I’ve had. Once we’re up and rolling I get the kids dressed and fed, wash dishes, clean the house, do laundry (depending on the day), try and get a school lesson in, get some work done on my husband’s businesses, Go to the grocery store (depending on the day), get the youngest to take a nap, serve lunch, do more dishes, go take a walk or go to the park, get dinner started and served, wash the dinner dishes, squeeze in some family time with daddy and get the kids in the bathtub and ready for bed. Once the kids are sleep I tidy up, then take care of myself and spend time with my husband.
What has motherhood taught you?
Motherhood has taught me that I don’t have as much patience as I thought I did but most importantly unconditional love. Even when I’m dead tired and they’ve worked my last nerve, I love them with every ounce of my soul and I wouldn’t trade them for anything in this world.
Describe your life as a stay at home mom using a movie title or song title
"You can do it" - Ice Cube.
Was this your dream job?
I wouldn’t say this was my dream job. I’ve always wanted to be a mom, but not necessarily a stay at home mom.
How was the process adjusting from no kids to one and then two?
Adjusting from no kids to one was the hardest. There was no more go as you please. Whenever I left the house I had to remember diapers, bottles, burp cloths, toys, etc. Making sure the baby is buckled in. No more “running to the store real quick”. The main adjustment with the second one was making sure the oldest was receiving enough attention. With the second child you don’t worry about all the little things you did with the first one like catching colds, when to start solids, or how often they’re supposed to poop.
What would you do differently?
I would have had them closer together. Financially it may have been a good thing we waited a couple of years before deciding to have another one.
What do you do when you need “me” time?
When I do get “me” time I do little things that relaxes me, like doing my hair or giving myself a pedicure. Even going to the grocery store by myself is a nice break. It’s nice to clear my head and be able to think about the things I want accomplish.
What advice do you have for other millennial moms?
My advice is to other millennial moms is to not be so hard on yourself. You’re doing the best you can. And if you’re like me and don’t feel like you’re doing anything to contribute to the family because you’re not bringing in income, you are more important than you think. Stay strong. Live in the now and enjoy those little moments like your little one smiling at you or learning the alphabet without reciting the song. Oh and stay off google for medical advice! Lol. Dr. Google will have you worried for no reason.
What fun activities do you and the kids do daily?
I’m happy my kids are easily entertained. We mostly go to the park, take walks or sing and dance. Lately the Moana soundtrack has been pretty popular in our house LOL. On those really nice days we go and do lunch at the local outdoor mall or go to the zoo.
Why'd you decide to create an Instagram account for the kids?
I created the Instagram for the kids initially for my blog. I'm holding off on my blog to pursue other things first. Now it’s mostly to entertain and show off my cute babies lol.
At the end of the day what is your mission statement you would want your kids to remember?
I want them to know that they are better than what this world says they are. They can and will be great!
How has the increase of Police brutality effect you when it comes to raising African American kids ?
It made me more cautious of the situations I put myself in. A simple traffic stop can end bad. I pay attention to the toys they play with. We don’t allow the kids to play with toy guns or any fake weapons for that matter. I know they don’t know what’s going on nor are they old enough to understand but I hope that when they do get to that age, they won’t live in fear.
How has motherhood changed you as a woman?
I’ve become more selfless. Everything is no longer all about me. I think about the impact my decisions have on my family before I make them. It has made me stronger, but a little more of a softy at the same time. I try pay more attention to the things I say and do now that I have eyes and ears watching me all the time. I do slip up and get out of character sometimes.